Despair - S. Kierkegaard.

Despair is a sickness of the spirit, of the self, and so can have three forms:

1. being unconscious in despair of having a self (inauthentic despair)
2. not wanting in despair to be oneself
3. wanting in despair to be oneself

The sickness unto death - S. Kierkegaard.

 

If you are reading this, at least we can say that, there is a possibility for you to not be in state of (inauthentic despair) 1.

 

Despair: hopelessness of doing a thing in order to improve worrying situation. 

Self-Love 47 VIII I A I90 - S. Kierkegaard.

Erotic love and marriage are really just a deeper corroboration of self-love, with two people involved in self-love. That is exactly why married people become so content, prosper so vegetatively for pure love is not adapted to worldly life in the way self-love is. The lonely person therefore lacks self-love, which married people express by saying that person is selfish, since married people assume that marriage is love.

Self-Love 47 VIII I A I90 - S. Kierkegaard.